sex with a devoted christian on third meeting?
She is 39, divorced & is a devoted Christian(goes to church almost everyday to pray, study bible & tries to preach gospel to me). On our third meeting, we had both oral and vaginal sex. Why would she do this when it’s against the bible to have adultery? Does bible condone unmarried sex? I’m single. Or does she have 2 separate personality?
please be pulling my leg——WHAT AN IMMORAL WOMAN—-!!
has she not read her bible—-?? does she not know that sex is for procreation and fornication is sinful—-?? ‘devoted’ ‘christian’—–HAH
March 1st, 2010 at 4:29 am
That is fornication.
Most cultists only follow the parts that are convenient or that already fit with their views.
Sex is natural, healthy, and fun. Just use protection.
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March 1st, 2010 at 4:50 am
Sex outside of marriage is adultery. Maybe she’s not quite as devoted as you thought.
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March 1st, 2010 at 5:02 am
man, your gonna catch somthin ..
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March 1st, 2010 at 5:12 am
please be pulling my leg——WHAT AN IMMORAL WOMAN—-!!
has she not read her bible—-?? does she not know that sex is for procreation and fornication is sinful—-?? ‘devoted’ ‘christian’—–HAH
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March 1st, 2010 at 5:27 am
Do you realize that you are disgusting?
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March 1st, 2010 at 5:42 am
I think she lied to you and is really a sk@nk because she know you wouldn’t want to sleep with her knowing you’d probably get AIDS. She put on the church girl thing to trick you.
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March 1st, 2010 at 6:10 am
she does not see or understand the flesh and the sin of it OR she probably thinks sense she has Jesus she can sin…..
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March 1st, 2010 at 6:41 am
Third! You’re a slacker, man.
I usually have sex with Christian women on the second date and, not infrequently, the first.
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March 1st, 2010 at 7:14 am
Christians are not exempt from sexual sin.
The sexual drive is a very powerful one. It is so strong that it can alter a person’s thinking and emotions. It can harden the heart and move us to irrational and sinful decisions. God has created sex for the marriage bed and for there alone. He wants you to be pure in mind and body, reserving the sexual union for the proper context of marriage so that you might properly honor God and your spouse. Failure to do this is to commit grievous sin. But all is not lost.
There is forgiveness in Christ
All of your sexual sin can be forgiven. The blood of Christ is too great to be defeated by your sin. Jesus paid a great price on the cross (1 Pet. 2:24). He shed His blood and gave His life and if you are a Christian, then you have been bought with a great price. You are not your own and the Lord always longs to fellowship with you (1 Cor. 1:9). All you need to know is that you must confess your sin to God and repent of it. This means you stop doing it. You are called by God to purity, not to sexual immorality.
1 Cor. 6:18, "Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body."
Eph. 5:3, "But do not let immorality or any impurity or greed even be named among you, as is proper among saints."
Col. 3:5, "Therefore consider the members of your earthly body as dead to immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed, which amounts to idolatry."
1 Thess. 4:2, "For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. 3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God."
The Greek word for "immorality" is porneia which means illicit sexual intercourse, i.e., fornication, homosexuality, lesbianism, bestiality, etc. The English word "pornography" is derived from this Greek word. So, you can see that God desires your holiness. After all, this is why you are a Christian, to honor God, glorify Him, and live for Him.
To repeat, if you are in sexual sin, stop it, confess it, break off tempting relationships and situations, and seek the Lord. If you fall again, then go to the cross again. Never give up going to Jesus and receiving the forgiveness that you need. Never think that the Lord Jesus will stop loving you. Never doubt Him. He loves you and knows your struggle.
Then, after you have repented, see if you can find someone to be accountable to. Find someone trustworthy and have them pray with you regularly. It is so true that sometimes beating sexual sin cannot be done alone. Sometimes we need the strength of the body of Christ.
What if I don’t repent of my sin?
If you are a Christian involved in sexual sin then you know that the Holy Spirit has been convicting you. If you feel no conviction then you are either not really saved or are so hardened by the sin you’ve been committing that you are close to God taking your life. This is the case in 1 Cor. 5:5 where a man was having sex with his father’s wife and he would not repent. Paul said, "I have decided to deliver such a one to Satan for the destruction of his flesh, that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus." Rest assured that God takes this seriously. He will take your life to essentially save your soul. This is a loving move on God’s part.
If you are reading this, then the Lord has directed you here because He wants you to know about this issue. If you are in such sin, you know what the Lord requires of you. If you are not in this sin, then thank the Lord for His mercy and continue to seek the Holiness of the Lord.
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March 1st, 2010 at 7:31 am
I’m not sure she is really a devoted christian. The bible does not support sex before marriage. There are many wolves in the house of God.
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March 1st, 2010 at 7:46 am
Why would you want to have sex with someone you had only been out with 3 times? You are both sinning against God.
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March 1st, 2010 at 8:16 am
She is not a true Christian.(Galatians 5:19-21) Now the works of the flesh are manifest, and they are fornication, uncleanness, loose conduct, 20 idolatry, practice of spiritism, enmities, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, contentions, divisions, sects, 21 envies, drunken bouts, revelries, and things like these. As to these things I am forewarning YOU, the same way as I did forewarn YOU, that those who practice such things will not inherit God’s kingdom.(Galatians 6:7-8) Do not be misled: God is not one to be mocked. For whatever a man is sowing, this he will also reap; 8 because he who is sowing with a view to his flesh will reap corruption from his flesh, but he who is sowing with a view to the spirit will reap everlasting life from the spirit.
What does the Bible really teach ?Living in a way that pleases God. http://www.jw.org/
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March 1st, 2010 at 8:43 am
she’s divorced too, so maybe there’s certain aspects on Christianity which she doesn’t conform to. Don’t feel guilty or anything, she clearly wanted it too.
And also, adultery is having sex with someone else when married, so it’s not quite adultery but i take your point. Like i said, she might not agree with every single aspect of the religion.
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March 1st, 2010 at 8:51 am
baby
each person has their faults
im a devote christian too
but i’ve a problem with lust
maybe she repented
maybe she’s a lust problem
and is working on it
and the bible tells us not to divorce anyways
unless if one party was unfaithful
look
no one is perfect except god
we all have faults
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March 1st, 2010 at 9:17 am
The Bible does not condone unmarried sex.
If you really want to know why she had sex with you, ask her. We’re none of us mind readers on Y!A.
My guess is that she was lonely, you weren’t man enough to wait until marriage, and she figured God would forgive her in the long run. None of which would be good reasons if true.
You see, Christians are not PERFECT people. The only difference between our sins and an atheist’s sins is that we recognize them as sins, and we try to avoid them. If this woman is feeling deep guilt and came to me for advice, I would tell her to flee temptation — which means not seeing you any more, since you don’t seem interested in helping her uphold her standards.
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March 1st, 2010 at 10:05 am
Satan.
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March 1st, 2010 at 10:34 am
thought you said she was divorced in which case not married so its not adultery
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March 1st, 2010 at 10:45 am
Christian does not mean saint.
I don’t get why everyone thinks Christians are perfect or that they think they are perfect.
No one is!
We all sin. It’s not right. Some of us try not to or know we shouldn’t, but unfortunately, it still happens.
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March 1st, 2010 at 11:18 am
Ha! "Devoted Christian" my azs!
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March 1st, 2010 at 11:40 am
Apparently you swept her off her feet. Clearly you provided something she needed or wanted. One cannot make assumptions about one person’s faith based upon the doctrine of that religion. Each one brings his or her own mind along with the religious beliefs. Use a condom.
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March 1st, 2010 at 11:56 am
What about you, Humble, what’s your story? Are you a devoted Christian who tapped that a$$ for Jesus? Give the lady a break and admit that sex is extremely affirming of one’s being and as a 39 year old divorcee she was probably sore in need of the human comfort of love making. The Bible clearly states that one should not judge. How about it Christians? Who wants to stone her? Y’all make me sick…
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